The other day, watching a TV program called “Your Face Sounds to Me”, a contest where 8 famous people (actors, singers, presenters) should imitate various singers. Over the months that has been in antenna, I enjoyed and laughed a lot. A contest where is about mimic, and is not valued if they are good singers or not (not all are). And of course, as happens in all the competitions, I personally have my favorites. A few because to my point of view they are very good imitators, and others because I was surprised with their ability or they have made wonderful parodies. Of course, I have not always coincided with valuations that the jury gave in each program, but clear… I am not an expert or professional in the subject.
That same day, watching the web of the program because I could not remember who would imitate the contestants, I read the comments made by the public. I was impressed to read comments full of hatred and anger regarding some contestants, especially towards those who were doing wonderfully well, not only according to my criteria, but the discretion of the jury itself. Many of them attacking professionalism or beauty. Deeming it boring the one that made it perfect, or upstart and arrogant to the one that was growing with each performance in addition to being a woman of great beauty and talent. Regardless, I again repeat, that the contest goes on imitations. Nor Voices, bodies, nor anything else that is not imitation, which in many comments is not even valued, attacking even to judges not be impartial even that all those who have seen the programs know the opinion of each of these judges.
Later, I went to bed, and as always, I turn on the radio. They were interviewing a psychologist (do not remember the name) with respect to the publication of a book, and she said something that left me thinking: “human beings tend to destroy all what we want and we can not possess”, citing as an example the children. When a child is with a toy and comes another that wants it, and not gets it, ends up breaking that toy with thinking, conscious or unconscious of “if not for me, is not for anyone”. This woman continued deeper into the topic, while I tried to related what was saying with what I had read.
I’ve always said that Second Life is a living reflection of Real life, where everything what we are remains formed of our avatar.
In every contest in which I have participated, or to those who have attended as public, always, always I have heard criticisms regarding the winners. Of course, that we consider ourselves the best, believing that what we have done no one can overcome it, and that we who deserve to win this title. That in my point of view, is very valid and natural, as if we thought we could do better, we would have done so.
The problem comes when we are not able to recognize that someone has done it better than us, by crossing out the contest being rigged, that winners are friends of the jury or the organizers, and starting to spread rumors and unfounded gossip generated by anger or envy.
For the first time I’ve gotten in the Organization of a styling contest, and after having participated in many others as a contestant without great success, we’ve tried to not give rise to these comments (there will probably be many others), with two fundamental premises: each gala we are trying to have different judges of renowned prestige and experience in the world of styling, modeling and design, as well as the fact that each judge will give participants their assessment with respect to the work done, enhancing what has been done well, and showing the mistakes, in a constructive way, where we always think that feedback from experts will serve each participant in a future.
I don’t remember if it was in my first or second post where I mentioned that one of my greatest frustrations was not knowing what I had done wrong to be out of a casting or a contest, always wanting to know what should I fix to make it better at following occasions.
During this contest, in many occasions, I have remained surprised at that those who for me might turn out to be favorites, at the end obtained low punctuations, but listening to what each jury said of the because they had given such valuation, perfectly understood the motivations that led them to give a low note, but the styling that had submitted was still liking my, gave me account that could have done more with it.
With those comments, not only valid for the contestants but for the public present has served as learning, understanding things as subjective as they may be the poses.
When we have the project, many people, both judges and participants, such as public, did not think that it could work. As a judge, think that to tell someone their mistakes, may feel that they would end up hating him. As a participant, think that a negative comment could sink you, and as public, could give you motivation to mockery.
By the comments that I have personally received, judges have left happy, some wanting to repeat, because they have been able to help with their constructive criticism to the formation of best stylists, as participant, that comment helps you again not to make the same mistakes and to optimize you most in your work to strengthen your weak points, and as the public, to attach greater value to both participants work as jury without all that voucher to yourself to learn new things or understand the because of many notes.
I am quite sure, that there will be people that don’t like this system, deemed that to tell a contestant where have been wrong and tell them in public, it can represent a humiliation. I think that we are all adults, and when the criticisms are not offensive, nobody should feel humiliated, clear is the exception of those ones who feels perfect, and believes that everyone is against them.
I certainly, will continue trying it, learning day after day of each of these contests in whom I could take part and of the whole people with whom I cross. Enjoying and amusing myself with it, because I have very clearly, that the day that this starts harming me, I will change airs. Second Life is a window to forget at least for awhile real life, where we already have enough bad moments.